Gay dating tips first date
Maybe they’ve been your friend for years and you matched on tinder last night and decided to go for it. Say you had a good time and want to see her again and see what happens.Maybe there’s some other reason you want to get big and sweeping and romantic. But remember how you’re keeping your expectations low? Don’t think of a good first date as one that leads to a second.
You might already have an idea about how well suited you could be to each other, and your tentative feelings about the other person can have a major impact.
It’s easy to have a lot of mixed expectations, feelings, nerves, hopes, excitement, boredom, dread and dreams around first dates. What if they’re “the one” (“the one” is a myth) and you mess it up by talking too much about your cat? — but take a deep breath and let all that stuff go.
Be honest with yourself about what a first date actually is: a way to spend about 45 minutes to three hours with a stranger to determine whether you have enough in common to see each other again in a context that might eventually have sexual or/and romantic vibes. It’s easy to put a lot of pressure on yourself or on the situation: What if you forget how to talk to strangers? What if when you have a relationship you look back on this evening and it’s weird?
The prospect of the date could become really daunting – or you might adopt a ‘take it or leave it’ approach, explains Paula Hall, Parship's dating expert.
If you think this person could really be relationship material there is obviously a lot more at stake.